Writing Prompts: Am I a Narcissist?

That face you make when someone makes a nonsensical statement.

I offer up this Prompt because recently, I was accused of being a narcissist, ironically from someone who more readily fits the bill for actually being one. The concept rattled around my brain for a few days, until I decided the best way to express my thoughts was via a Prompt.

Duke Health offers up nine traits of narcissists:

  1. Sense of self-importance
  2. Preoccupation with power, beauty, or success 
  3. Entitled
  4. Can only be around people who are important or special
  5. Interpersonally exploitative for their own gain
  6. Arrogant
  7. Lack empathy
  8. Must be admired
  9. Envious of others or believe that others are envious of them

Do any of these traits apply to me?

I would like to believe I am not especially concerned with my own self-importance. I offer my personal thoughts and feelings via my blog, and that’s it. I don’t tell others how to think or feel, I do not threaten people with notions of punishment if they disagree with me, and I try to be even-handed.

Do I have a preoccupation with power or success? Not especially. I would like to be earning more, but that’s pretty normal for most people. I would like to sell more books, but if I do, great, and if I don’t, I am not distraught. I am not especially enamoured with the rich and famous.

Do I feel entitled? Not especially.

In terms of being around people who are important or special, well, I consider my wife and daughter to be important and special to me, does that mean I have a trait of a narcissist? Somehow, I don’t think that’s what’s meant by ‘important and special’. Don’t get me wrong, if I were placed in a room with actors from Star Trek tomorrow, I’d be slightly giddy, and I certainly hold them in high regard, but I can cope without being around them!

Do I exploit my relationships for personal gain? Again, I don’t think so.

Am I arrogant? I think I can sometimes display arrogance, but compared to other people I know? I don’t think so.

Do I lack empathy? I’ll leave it to others to judge, but again, I think I have quite a lot of empathy.

Must I be admired? I am not fussed by whether or not I am admired for my views. I do not blog in order to preen and strut.

Am I envious of others? That depends on what I should be envious of? do I envy the bank balance of Lewis Hamilton? Sure. Do I envy him as a person? No, why would I?

Of course, through all of this, sometimes an external perspective would be better. Answering these points for myself is after all going to lead to slightly biased answers!

One thing to arise from this little comment is a slight change to my comments policy. Users must now be registered in order to leave comments. I am sure certain parties will whine about this, but this change is to ensure accountability. It is unfortunate that I have to do this, but since certain parties believe they are entitled to be abusive, it is a measure I have no choice but to take.

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