Earlier on I wrote an article that explored the idea of gender roles and how radical feminism views them. With this post, I’ll be examining how ‘red pill’ proponents view gender roles.
You may recall a recent post of mine where I discussed ‘manliness‘. Well, that post would be recommended reading, ahead of this one (not required reading, but it might be useful to look at it, as it offers some background.
Both posts explore the theme of identity and how we define ourselves – or perhaps, how others define us. When I posted my discussion on manliness, I referred to a site called ‘Illimitable Men’, which is where my references to the red pill come from. Having tackled radical feminist perceptions of men, it seems only fair to tackle red pill perceptions of women.
Hardened men make for attractive men, for toughness is a trait that men and women alike covet in men. Almost all respect a hardened man even when they dislike him. At the same time, hardened women make for utterly repulsive beings. They do not inspire desire nor respect, merely alienation. Hardening is conducive to the cultivation of masculinity, but to femininity it is toxic. To femininity it is harmful, deleterious. Women must seek wisdom and respite in the face of suffering, not masculination. For women to preserve their greatest asset: their femininity, they must avoid masculinisation at all costs. This is healthier and more conducive to a woman’s development than adopting masculine boisterousness.
Firstly, what exactly is a ‘hardened man’? Is this a man who is unable or unwilling to show emotion? A man taught that to be ‘manly’ means never admitting to being vulnerable or seeking help? Does it mean to be an island, isolated from genuine feeling, lest it undermine the stoicism that marks a ‘hard’ man? Does such a man even truly exist in a real sense? I would argue this is a construct. Some societies or parts of societies might well elavate the hard man – indeed, look at how the Kray twins are remembered – but the concepts of masculinity and femininity are just that – concepts. They are not set in stone tablets.
Is the idea that women should not confront their suffering in the same fashion as a man would? If so, why? Might it be the inherent fear among men that strong, confident women don’t require a man to help them or guide them through life?
Women are taught to debauch their femininity in pursuit of power and social acceptance under the rule of feminist dogma. They all too unwittingly realise not what they give up by capitulating to feminism. Much to woman’s detriment, adhering to the feminist roadmap results in a vitiation of her desirability to the kind of man she yearns for. Of specific note in regard to this is the contemporary culture. The current economic model and prevailing social-programming of the time push women towards masculinity by framing it as “liberation.” Feminism sells women the lie that to masculinise is to become free. It convinces the feminine to divorce herself from her nature and to aspire to be that which she isn’t. That her desire to nurture, support and mother is weak. She should become more manlike, fierce, assertive, a conqueror! Indeed what banal trite, there is no man of worth breathing that wants to commit to the fabled feminist “real woman.”
There are absolutes in this paragraph and also more of the idea that gender roles are inherent and immutable. The implication is that men should be fierce and assertive (even conquerors!), and that women should be supportive and be mothers. Should this be how men and women are always perceived? Should women be confined to the home, never venturing beyond the door, except if the man permits it?
The absolute is in the final sentence. The author appears to believe a man should not desire a woman with a mind and will of her own. How dare a man desire a woman who is strong, and independent, and capable of doing the same things he can do. What a terrible notion indeed!
Instead, the author would have women (and men) play the parts he believes are preset for us. Basically, we shouldn’t use our own minds.
There is more (a lot more) to this article, but much of it merely rehashes the idea that women and men need to play certain parts, and any deviation from this is undesirable. I for one, would sooner make up my own mind – and I certainly don’t believe that a ‘strong’ woman is not desirable.